## Summary
- make the relay reconnect coordinator authoritative during outages so
query, publish, and subscription traffic waits for the scheduled attempt
instead of cancelling backoff
- release waiting operations after the coordinated AUTH +
live-subscription replay attempt, while preserving one explicit manual
reconnect fast path
- suppress duplicate notification side effects when reconnect replay
overlaps previously delivered events
## Root cause
`resetConnection()` scheduled exponential backoff, but
`ensureConnected()` cleared any pending reconnect timer. Operation-level
retry paths immediately called `ensureConnected()`, so ordinary app
traffic could repeatedly bypass the reconnect policy during an outage.
The resulting churn also replayed overlapping live events into
notification side effects without a shared event-ID guard.
## Validation
- `pnpm --dir desktop typecheck`
- `pnpm --dir desktop test` — 3,823 passed
- pre-push: `desktop-check`, `desktop-test`, and `branch-skew` passed
- file-size, px-text, and pubkey-truncation ratchets passed
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Signed-off-by: Wes <wesbillman@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Carl <c7ebe626f000404285d3686e1dc74cc07cc60a9754a150041ba132e14bd3e2ec@buzz.block.builderlab.xyz>
